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Originally Posted by JustShakey
It's not really about the therapist - it's a reenactment of early attachment patterns. Continuously getting negative responses or no response from your caregiver when you express you needs will teach you that those needs are unacceptable and so you suppress them to gain the approval of your caregiver - to preserve the attachment.
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Righty-o, well said. That is what i am referring to. It's basically a survival adaptation, because if the caregiver is not sufficiently attuned or available, the child will do whatever is necessary to keep the relationship in tact.
Then later in life this insecure attachment pattern becomes dysfunctional, and I've talked to people online who are seemingly re-enacting this pattern with a therapist -- i.e. withholding feelings if they sense that expressing them will jeopardize the relationship.