What are the things you do to escape your feelings? Some people eat, some people drink, some people take drugs, some people do extreme sports. Maybe they're asking you to just stop all those behaviours, identify the feelings you do have, what it comes from, and how you can deal with it? Feelings do pass.
My worst feeling is rejection. So I've had to learn I have my own self worth, and I'm not defined by what my parents think of me. Whenever they've said horrible things, it's a reflection of THEM, not me. So I have to think, okay, I feel rejected, what can I do about it? What am I good at? And do something I enjoy and that is beneficial.
I do apologise if I've got it wrong.