This was something I talked about with my T, too. Like you, I just found I wasn't erotically attracted to many people. There were lots of people I was attracted to in other ways, however, so we decided that there were 2 explanations and 'remedies." The first was that it wasn't a situation of some sort of broad disorder of relationship, since I had many friendships/working relationships of varying levels of intimacy--so no remedy of that sort indicated. The second was that my trauma experiences accounted for my not recognizing those for whom I might develop erotic feelings--a kind of unconscious defense: if I didn't feel attraction, then I didn't have to contend with the negative feelings the attraction would stir up. So often it would only be in situations in which the other person revealed attraction to me that I would have to confront these uncomfortable feelings. The remedy was to become more conscious of stirrings and to reframe them from negative to positive. I wish I could say that it was all a resounding success, but it hasn't fully worked out that way over the years. It's certainly less upsetting to me, and that is good; but I also think stage of life and natural drives are part of the picture, too, and so it's just become less of a priority for me.