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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Thanks for your response feralkittymom.
In my case, I have no history of sexual trauma and I have had long-term relationships. Currently, I've been single for a few years but I'm 30 now and at the stage in life where I would like to get married (to a woman) and have children. There just hasn't been anyone I am interested in. I gave it a shot and went on 3 dates with women who approached me this month, but I wasn't ultimately interested in any of them-- physically, emotionally, or otherwise. They were perfectly nice, I just didn't feel any attraction. In fact, I was crossing my fingers at the end of each date that they wouldn't try to hug/kiss/touch me in any way. My friends think that I'm "picky," but I would rather be single than date the wrong person. Been there, done that. I guess I just wish I found people I was attracted to more often, like my friends do. They go on dates, and tend to like the person afterwards. I tend not to. I WANT to like more of them-- I just don't.
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I could have written this word for word.
This is making me think I should definitely bring it up with my therapist!
I think there is nothing wrong with being picky.
But also, could it be possible that you have a specific type?
I'm asking because as gay women, we tend to have less choices in general and when you are looking for a certain "type" well it's gets even trickier.
I'm a femme and I'm only attracted to femme lesbians. There aren't a lot of feminine lesbians to begin with.
Then you add the fact that I'm looking for someone who is smart, educated, well-read and the pool gets smaller and smaller.
Sometimes I feel shallow because I just recently went on a date with someone who was perfectly nice and smart and we had talked for three weeks (online) before meeting up. But there was nothing. No attraction in real life. I wanted to like her, I just couldn't.
All of this to say that I relate.