Sorry for the goofy word, but I wasn't sure of a better, less silly, way to say it.

Do conversations with your T "blossom"? I've noticed that with some people in my life, conversations just... blossom. They have a lot of interesting things to add, the things they say spark more thoughts for me, I talk, they talk, and an hour goes by very quickly because we both spark ideas for each other. It's fun, and it feels very "connecting" to me. It feels like we understand each other and are coming from a shared place, even if we're actually disagreeing and trying to explain our points of view.

I don't get this with T. And it's frustrating. Sometimes I feel like I toss him the conversational ball, and he just takes it and puts it in a drawer behind him. There's no... well, blossoming or sparking.

An example. Soccer Mom made an interesting comment on one of my threads, that her T had said that it's really hard to keep people who have a history of childhood emotional neglect in therapy. Well, that's me! And that sort of fascinated me!

So, I told T. And, I was a bit nervous telling him, but I did... and asked him if that was his experience. His response was, "yes."

That's it. "Yes." Ummm. I guess I was expecting some discussion, maybe some information on *why*, on how people with neglect background perceive things, or why therapy is harder for them than others, or even ways that I, as someone with this type of background, can feel better about therapy and deal with my feelings of wanting to quit. (I've told him, and think that I did again in this session, that I want to quit after every other session. Maybe he thinks I'm exaggerating? He clearly does not read this forum !)

Does that make sense, that it feels like a "miss"? I think this happens kind of a lot, and is maybe one of the reasons that I end up feeling like we're not on the same page, and that he's not understanding me. It's kind of a subtle thing, but it sort of takes the wind out of my sails, so to speak, and feels like something that makes me less eager to be open and share.

Thanks...