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Old Apr 08, 2015, 11:23 AM
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Originally Posted by guilloche View Post
Please don't beat yourself up so much, ThisWayOut. You're doing the best you can with the current circumstances. Even my T told me once... sometimes things are just *crappy* (he used a stronger word). Then, you just do the best you can with what you've got - that's all you really can do.

Have you ever been able to try a T that does EMDR by chance? I haven't, but I've seen some people talk about it - I just wonder if it might be helpful as a quicker way to help with some of the flashbacks? Just a thought, I'm probably not telling you anything new.
I did EMDR with a former therapist, and it helped a lot. I moved though, and this T doesn't do EMDR. I would want to try it again at somepoint, but I need a T I trust. When I did it with my old T, it was pretty much just inducing flashbacks and forcing myself to walk through them without stopping. I trusted that my T would help me through it, and would know what to do if I fell apart in the middle (she did). I don't think I could just go to a T for EMDR. Even with old T, it took about 2 years before I was ok with the thought of it.

It's frustrating that I keep feeling like anything helpful is always something I have to wait for or work towards... I'm so tired of having to keep holding my breath.