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Old Apr 08, 2015, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by musinglizzy View Post
I've wondered this about myself too. Firstly, I AM married. But we have had our issues, and as the years passed, I've found I have no desire, definitely not attracted to him anymore (his hygiene has gone out the window), nor am I attracted to anyone else. Nor have I been. I have no desire for sex. I've talked to my T about all of this, and I've also told her in my dream world, I would be single, with a bunch of animals, maybe a same sex roommate or two.

My T does not believe me when I say I would be totally ok with never having sex again. I quit trying to justify myself.... but I'm just not a sexual being anymore...and could take it or leave it. She says I haven't met the right person. I told her I'd never go looking. As it is, hubby and I live together but apart. We don't share a bedroom. We also typically get along ok...

Wow...I can't believe I am saying all of this....but I have wondered myself if there's "something wrong with me," that I have no desire for sex. I DO have the desire for companionship, whether it be a partner (not likely) or friend(s). A friend of mine (also not in an ideal marriage) and I have joked about becoming roomies if we ever found ourselves single, because surprisingly, she feels the same way I do on everything. We would make great room mates. In fact, we have lived together.....she stayed with us for 6-8 months during a rough patch in her life.
This! I have been single for the last 2 years, but for the last 10 years or more I have had no interest in sex, no desire for sex, I feel like I've lost the biological drive for sex. I fondly remember that I used to enjoy sex, seek it out, even initiate once in a while. At some point in my 30's I just lost that (I'm 41 now) and I can't say I miss it.

My T also says things like, "You'll meet the right man someday," or "you really need a social life," that make me roll my eyes. I'm really happy with my very complicated un-coupled-up life right now. I don't see a need to change that. If I become desperately lonely or suddenly find myself overcome with desire, then I will re-evaluate the situation.

It makes me sorta angry that T doesn't believe us!
Thanks for this!
musinglizzy