I could have written your post word for word as well! Yes, I do have a specific type. I'm also a femme lesbian who is only attracted to other femme lesbians. Add to that educated, financially stable, similar interests-- and yes, I realize my pool is small. But I keep thinking that there must be women out there who fit the bill, right?

I think online dating can be disappointing because it feels like I invest a fair amount of time and energy into getting to know someone, learning about their background, seeing if we have similar values and goals, scheduling a "date" to meet in person-- and then nothing. No attraction whatsoever. Even worse though is that the other person often does feel something, so then I have to be the "bad guy" and let her know that I'm not interested. I've gone through this whole scenario quite a few times, and wish I knew of a better way to meet people. But, in RL, there is no way to spot a femme lesbian-- so I tend to go back to online dating in the absence of better alternatives. I just end end up feeling bad or guilty for meeting people who seem perfectly nice and who want to pursue something with me-- but I just don't becsuse there is zero attraction. I wish there was. There just isn't.