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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
I am honestly concerned about the mental stability of this woman. She has no boundaries. Your boyfriend isn't setting healthy boundaries. His mother isn't setting healthy boundaries. Your best friend isn't even setting healthy boundaries! Its going to be next to impossible for YOU to set healthy boundaries when everyone else in your life is welcoming her with open arms. Sadly, you can't control their behavior. I hope you can work out the craziness, but at the end of the day, you can only change your behavior. If they refuse to change, your only option is to accept this woman (and her craziness) or to move on. Good luck!
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ChipperMonkey - I love this name btw...You bring up a good point about boundaries. I have a hard enough time with boundaries on my own and it was really baffling to me that this woman was able to manipulate her way into the live of people I care about. She comes across as mousy and sweet but she always seems to have a motive.
I can't figure out what that motive is at times and it irks me that no one stands up to her and simply says no.
I agree I have to either accept her as a part of OUR past or move on because harboring such negative feelings does nothing but eat at me. It isn't healthy at all. I think I can move on and leave her in the past but feel as though I need to address her with my bf to try and understand why he is/was unable to ask her to bow out and be respectful of me and our relationship.
It doesn't matter what I feel about her (starting a relationship with my bf while she was still married, trying to get pregnant when she was sleeping with both of them) because that is all on her. She basically is the exact type of person I despise and I have to let THAT go.