Thank you for your responses and support. It makes me reassure myself that I'm not crazy.

My husband has always struggled between his mom and me although he "knows" logically that I come first. His actions reflect that, but I feel like his heart isn't in it.

MIL texted me (probobly because of my FIL) to say she would email me.

And to thank me for having my child apologize to her GREAT-grandmother. (the whole thing was initiated because my kid spilled, splashing on her great grandmother by accident, and didn't want to apologize because it had been an accident. Instead of explaining that we still apologize for accidents, they just started calling her names)

I had nothing to do with my kid appologizing! great grandmother apologized back for her name calling, but I do not think my kid should have had to call and apologize. No one asked me about that and I feel like MIL manipulated my husband into it.

I ignored her text.