Now you are starting to see what's going on with him. It's not the job. It's him, and he would find a problem with any job. Neither does he have the maturity to operate his own business, which is harder than working for someone else, usually. This is something basic in his attitude that has become "hard-wired." No matter where he goes, he is going to be a victim of everyone picking on poor old him. Good that you're starting to see that.

Now you can come here and keep telling us how ridiculous his behavior is. We're all convinced of that and don't need any further proof. You have to decide what you are after. If you are looking to be able to tell people what a nutty husband you have, then I guess that's what you can do. Where will that get you? So the thing for you to do now is to find how you are going to relate to him while you are there. What he says he expects and what you ought to do are not the same thing, which you already know.

Being able to see how wrong he is about so much is not a victory for you. It is you beginning to define a big problem that you have. Being married to a man like this is a big problem. So now your thinking has to be along the lines of "how do I handle this problem." One option is to leave. If you stay, you have to develop plans for how you deal with living there.