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Originally Posted by BudFox
T's are indeed human and they cannot always be perfect. And yes therapy can itself be traumatic, especially poorly handled termination, and this is not trivial. I see my own experience as an indictment of therapy as a whole, as much as a failure of my own T.
Now I am stuck in a catch-22 where subsequent T's have trouble acknowledging the harm done and pile on to my distress by reflexively siding with previous T and invalidating my position and experience. It's almost like there's an "omertà" thing going on. And then I start doubting my own perceptions and reality and start to blame myself.
Yea, a refund would be nice. I'd settle for a direct acknowledgment of the harm done and an apology.
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BudFox I can totally relate to you! My T inappropriately and unethically terminated me, and I believe I know the reason. After four years we were quite close and if she was honest, I believe that she was as attached to me as I was to her. I told her she was like my best friend. She didn't agree on a financial situation that I had made and I got mad and cancelled our next appointment. The following day she sent me a letter telling me that she could not continue to support me in decisions that I was making that were self destructive. Come on...we're talking about $140.00 loan payment for a car for my son. The part that hurts is she didn't offer me referrals, appropriate closure or any further contact. I would give up almost anything...including my pending disciplinary action for her to admit that she screwed up and the hurt she has caused me. I have abandonment issues and she seriously exasperated them. I have spent over 50 hours with a new T trying to fix the damage that she has caused. I hate it! I want validation that she screwed up from her...not from everyone else. I have a hard time realizing that I will never get that validation from her!