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Originally Posted by Myrto
Completely agree about online dating but there are no other ways to find lesbians in my experience, even though I live in a big European city, the "scene" isn't actually diverse. It's not my thing either. So I'm stuck with online dating.
I've tried explaining this to my therapist (the very small pool) and she's empathetic but she doesn't really get it I'm afraid. Sigh.
Like you, I feel bad and guilty and I've even pursued a sort of relationship with one woman just because I thought attraction would eventually arise.
Of course it didn't and I wasted both my time and hers.
Sometimes I wonder if this is an unconscious way for me to not be in a relationship? Even though I crave intimacy, I'm also afraid of being hurt and I get closed off pretty quickly (anxious avoidant). I don't know.
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My t doesn't seem to understand logistics of dating at older age. I am 49, nice looking and fairly social yet it isn't always easy to find a decent man. I am dating someone now and she says in order to not get involved with wrong man I should date more than one.
I told her that it is difficult to meet more than one decent man. She says you can meet them at parties. ?????what parties.
Then she says doesn't your brother have single friends? He us 47 and married with 3 kids all their friends are married couples etc
I asked her if she even understands how hard it is to meet single available nice people when you are getting older. And she is like oh I didn't know that. What the? I start getting so annoyed with her lately
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