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Originally Posted by Myrto
Completely agree about online dating but there are no other ways to find lesbians in my experience, even though I live in a big European city, the "scene" isn't actually diverse. It's not my thing either. So I'm stuck with online dating.
I've tried explaining this to my therapist (the very small pool) and she's empathetic but she doesn't really get it I'm afraid. Sigh.
Like you, I feel bad and guilty and I've even pursued a sort of relationship with one woman just because I thought attraction would eventually arise.
Of course it didn't and I wasted both my time and hers.
Sometimes I wonder if this is an unconscious way for me to not be in a relationship? Even though I crave intimacy, I'm also afraid of being hurt and I get closed off pretty quickly (anxious avoidant). I don't know.
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My t also told me I should be dating men regardless if attracted just go on dates. I understand few dates but I think it is unkind to keep going out with guys if I feel no connection. I told her id rather spend time with friends then.
She kept pushing. I ended up crying at last session as not only I can't find more than one man at the time but also I won't date guys I don't like! I can't do that!
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