Oh how I love the emotion regulation section of DBT. It's one of the most helpful and one of the most difficult honestly.

There are several skills that DBT utilizes when there's an emotion that doesn't a) fit the facts or b) the intensity doesn't fit the facts. The goal isn't to suppress or deny the emotion it's to *actually change it* and part of that is learning what triggers it (there's this flow chart that's so amazing, I love it) and then picking the skill that most helps move towards that change. Opposite to emotion (and yes, they even have a section on how to act opposite to emotion for love). Problem solving. Building mastery.

Those are all DBT phrases. And I wish I could cram it into an easy statement or even a single post, but it's so friggin' comprehensive. That's why it's taught the way that it is in a group therapy + individual therapy format. You could google it and find more information though. You might find some of these skills super helpful before you start.

I'm a huge fan of DBT personally.

Just don't start seeing her again, please.