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Wow Sunrise! I wonder if your T is doing this on purpose as therapy? That seems like a lot of extraneous stuff going on when he should be with you. But if you are okay with it then that works for ya!

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Nah, he's not doing it as therapy, it's just stuff that happens. (Plus my T is very transparent and would not play games like that.) It only seems like a lot of stuff because I put it all in one post. That has been over a period of 8 months. Almost every session, I get his undivided attention and there are no phone calls. And he is really, really good at giving undivided attention, so oddly enough, even when he made the tech support call, when he was on hold and turned to me, he was fully there, he just turned it on. It was powerful.

I'm sorry you had kind of a rough session last time, ECHOES. I'm sorry the phone calls have been disruptive, especially that one coming when you were disclosing something important. (((hugs))) It's great you guys called each other so much to resolve the session. (Too bad about the pillow discussion. I thought that was such a cool topic!)

I'm trying to think what it would take for me to get angry at something my T did in a session. What would he have to do? I think maybe take a phone call during something really important would do it, like a traumatic revelation from me, or during the EMDR protocol, or during a moment of sadness and tears. That would probably make me feel mad or rejected. But I don't think he would ever do that.

It is interesting to me that we have progressed to this level of comfort with each other. At first when I saw him, he did not eat, and did not make the occasional "car repair" type calls right at the beginning of session before we got started when I had just entered his office. In fact, the client before me would leave his office, T would poke his head out and nod to me, then go back into his office, shut the door, and presumably do those business type phone calls on his own. Then 5-10 minutes later, he would open his office door, and usher me in, and we would start therapy. Now, as soon as the previous client leaves, T takes me inside with him. He doesn't do his business type calls in private because he is forgoing the opportunity to have 5-10 minutes by himself before seeing me. I like to think he feels at ease enough with me to know he can do those little calls before we start, in my presence, instead of making me wait out in the waiting room. It kind of makes me feel special, if truth be told. I know he does not feel so at ease with my husband, because he said to me once when we were talking about maybe having to reschedule a couples session, that he hated to have to do that so soon because he had only seen my husband once so far. So I understood that there are different boundaries for longtime clients with whom he has a bond and rapport and brand new clients whom he doesn't really know yet.