I feel like I am doing what your parents did to you with my own children. Dealing with marriage issues consumed a lot of time with arguments and I am suddenly trying to overcompensate for the past... NOT WORKING ANYWAY! They don't respect me and I will never be able to tell them how sorry I am but I am actually doing worse by trying to make everything all better. Mostly because I have already screwed their lives up -- which means I am only trying to make myself feel better for what I've done wrong. MAYBE, your mom is also feeling bad because of your situation and now she's trying to go above and beyond. It will never take away your hurt unless she talks to YOU about it!