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Believe this: Therapist are just like us, they judge even if you think they are trained not to, they have feelings, even if they are trained to supress them, they have egos even if you think it should not enter the therapy room. Remember you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. I tried to write emails to my therapist from an adult place instead of a child place and have found 100% of the time that my PRECIEVED feelings are wrong because they are coming from a child part still feeling the hurt from a past trauma or conditioning growing up.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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