I have decided to try and work through this rupture with t rather than run away - which was a past pattern.
I have had ruptures with every t and always quit so this is a new experience for me.
I had session yesterday and we discussed projection. T thinks I projected my hatred of my sexuality onto her. I am sure there was a bit of that but I still think her reaction was not appropriate. She is adamant that it is my issue and not hers so she is not budging on that issue. We thrashed it out a bit and came to no definite decision and I guess I will never be clear about what happened. I can only say what happened for me.
Our relationship has become stronger and t is delighted that I am starting to express myself. She has been trying to get me mad for a while...congratulations t you succeeded.
I guess I am unsure what will happen but the real contact between us was very exciting and new for me.