I think the letter is great.

One part of therapy that is really hard is acknowledging that our T's are people, with problems of their own. Though they are trained, they aren't always going to be perfectly attuned or present. I think of raising my kids, and most of the time I feel like I do a good job as a mom. Then there are the days the dishwasher breaks, I burn the breakfast, I realize there are no clean clothes in my kids drawers, I've forgotten to make cupcakes for Halloween, and my boss calls with a work emergency. One or both kids will ask me for something and I respond in an angry and stressed out way. Their faces drop, and I know I've disappointed and hurt them. Denying anything is wrong on my end means THEY'VE done something wrong in their minds, so I'm always up front if I'm having a bad day or upset. Anything other than that is crazy making.

I prefer not to email my T. Old T was really inconsistent in replying, and I spent all week fretting about how what I wrote was being perceived and why I wasn't getting a timely response back. It felt really good when T would send something caring and helpful back, but the heartache of no reply or a cold brief response was too much to deal with. The hard truth is, T's get busy and reading about our emotional turmoil doesn't always make the top of their list. And sometimes, they need to disengage for their own mental health. One of my hard therapy goals was to not rely so much on my T's support, and happily I haven't needed to email T in months. I do keep journals and read them in session.

Let us know what your therapist says. I'm guessing she has her own "stuff" that's getting in the way of being there for you like she used to.