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Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow
I too have been thinking about this in therapy, and I have come to the conclusion (perhaps wrongly of course) that this might be a manifestation of assuming that your own happiness and value depends on others liking you.
It might be debatable if someone's like and approval is worthwhile if you cannot be true to yourself to obtain it.
With T you are free to have a relationship that would be difficult for you in real life. Your T may like you or may not, it does not much matter if you can discuss the reasons why you may crave approval from people even at the cost of not being yourself.
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But then why would one have this tendency in the first place -- needing external approval in order to feel ok? Seems to me it has to be insecure attachment in early childhood leading to weak sense of self. The same pattern that leads one to suppress their own needs, including the need to express true feelings to a T or about a T -- to keep attachments in tact.