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Originally Posted by iheartjacques
A good T should also expect that there'll be some kind of transference and some kind of 'love' or mutual respect for getting some work done and not run away from it but to turn it into a positive for you, to model a safe, respectful relationship for you?
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Yes true, but I have read of some people who had a T who did all that, and the clients still would not divulge their feelings for T (which included love and attraction) for fear of losing the relationship. And I was just wondering about the link btwn that behavior and early attachment issues.
In my case my T did do all that, I took the risk to tell her my true feelings about her, and after a while the relationship did end with nothing really resolved and many wounds open. For someone with serious attachment and relationship problems this was a "welcome to hell" moment.
If I'd held back some of m intense feelings for T, it likely would not have ended.