This isn't a contest. We're not voting on who's right and who's wrong. You say, "it's HIM." like that is some sort of a win for you. Wrong! You married him. You are in a hugely dysfunctional marriage. That's a problem for YOU.

Personally, I don't buy that this guy was just fine for 6 years, then changed a couple of months ago. This guy has big-deal issues that got past your radar. Something's wrong with your radar. (But that's true of a lot of young women.)

Okay, so now you are seeing him a bit clearer. About time!

Of all the guys you've dated, you picked him out to marry. Once you met this man, you said, "That's the husband for me!" Do some thinking about why you did that. Not that you have to tell us. But you've got a problem and need to figure it out.

Show me a grossly dysfunctional marriage - which is what you've got - and I'll show you two people with issues. I don't know what yours are, but you need to know what they are. Getting into some therapy might not be a bad idea for you.

It doesn't sound like leaving him is costing you much emotionally. One has to wonder if you were ever in love with this man. Not all marriages start with people being in love. Some of those arrangements work out anyway. Yours doesn't seem to have. If you do decide to leave this marriage, you don't want to do so, just to end up walking into another ill-conceived union. It sounds like you've got a lot to learn, if that isn't going to happen. So don't gloat over him being the one who's wrong.

You have shown strength and resilience, and you've probably started to learn some things, but you do need to look back long and hard . . . and reflect.