My T actually e-mailed me today. It was a delayed response to the e-mail I sent her at the beginning of the week (I haven't contacted her since then). She said that she was busy unpacking and getting back into her routine, so she didn't have time to e-mail me until now. I feel better now that she responded, but all her response said was "We'll talk about it next session" and then she asked if I had any articles or lectures I might be willing to send her daughter on X topic. So, I sent her an article that I wrote and 2 powerpoints I created and use with my own students. I still feel some distance with her-- and it feels a little strange to send her my own work to give to her daughter-- but I feel better than I did when I started this thread. I don't think I'm going to bring up the fact that her lack of responsiveness hurt my feelings... because, now, she has responded. I think I'll just know for the future that, if I e-mail her, I'm making the decision to open up a can of worms. Hopefully, I'll decide not to do so in the future. I can, however, talk about feeling a little bit of distance and work through that with her.

I don't know that I want to say anything to her about feeling "weird" around the daughter stuff. I mean, I have no problem sharing my work. I think it's great that her daughter is interested in my field, and might benefit from reading what I sent. I feel positively towards T's children. Obviously, I haven't met them-- but, because they're my T's kids, and I like T, I have a general positive feeling towards them. But that doesn't mean that I don't still feel a little triggered by the fact that they have T as a mom and have this great relationship-- and I wish I had that. I'm not directly jealous of them, but I am sort of abstractly jealous of kids who have a good mom. And I won't deny that there are moments when I wish T could be mom-- or that she would hold me like she holds her kids-- but I'm enough of an adult to be able to separate that kind of "fantasy" from "reality." I don't normally feel that way-- but having her talk about her daughter SO MUCH does kind of bring the topic to the surface.