Hi Rayna,
First of all, you are not the first or the last woman to go through this stuff! So, if it's any comfort you're not alone.

We women tend to put ourselves through quite a bit of angst while our men are able to go to sleep just fine. Why do we do this to ourselves?!

What if, he is just becoming more comfortable in your relationship and feels like he can "let down" a bit and do some of those things he used to enjoy, i.e. video games, music, whatever. Perhaps it's a compliment to you and your relationship that he feels that he can do the things that he enjoys.

Maybe he thinks that your relationship is finally to a place where it doesn't require constant vigilance or attention. Perhaps he is so confident in your relationship that he feels comfortable going to sleep knowing that you'll resolve whatever it is when he sees you next?

I guess the "tough love" advice of my message is to try to keep your own baggage your own. Try not to let your past negative experiences seep into your current relationship. I know that is easier said than done.

I think you're right to discuss your concerns with him. I do recommend that you run them past a T or some other trusted friend before talking to your bf. Guys feel uncomfortable when their gals get all insecure about everything. They start to feel like they are under a microscope and they don't like it.

Try to relax hon, it certainly would be better for you and it might be better overall for your relationship.
Take good care,
Okie