Yes, I think we have to keep talking about them. It has taken me months of talking to figure out where these feeligns came from. So, some sessions I only talk about my feelings towards her like it seems she's frustrated at me and then we discuss if that's really the case, where it's coming from and how to move through it. Other sessions, I give her more information on my mom and childhood. Of course, it usually is about what feelings are bothering me the most and most of them are directed at T. due to the transference.

This week we are having a funeral for my texting issue. I've never told her ALL of my feelings about it so I'm going to and then be done with the issue. I've got to get rid of issues that are affecting my trust with her.

And, ask your T. how to deal with it. I did and her answer was to talk and talk and talk. We have to talk about our feelings, grieve what we never got (and are just now realizing through the transference), figure out what T. can give us (if anything) and then seek out what we need other places if possible.

I sometimes worry I"m talking too much about our relationship but I guess that shows how deep the wound is. And, I have learned SO MUCH about myself and how I interact with others. 11 months into therapy and we're just touching on me minimizing my feelings in front of her like my mom did mine.