T has actually said to me before "do you think I will judge you"?
I'm like, well , yeah, doesn't everyone??

She asked, "why would i"?
I wriggled but couldn't come up with a reply, which made me realise how toxic my life growing up had been, that, that was my conclusion.

Another time we were talking about jury service, and how we both wouldn't do it, each for different reasons.
T said how she'd find it very hard to sit in judgement of someone else.

She admitted she doesn't have any answers when I questioned her about what are we to do than with those who commit crimes, but said, sitting in judgement isn't an option for her.
I took that conversation away with me.
Finding it a complete new experience. Someone who really would struggle to judge.
I believe her, I had to sit with it quietly and felt the truth of it.
We sense these things.
But, talking about our fears around being judged are very helpful.