Slowly getting unnumb myself barely. Probly easier for me b/c it's so slow and not all at once. That being said hopefully this still helps. The only thing to do take it one day at a time very carefully and slowly. You're taking bandaids off and letting them heal so it'll be very very raw. You can also choose to open up slower if you want to that may help. Letting yourself feel again is the best way so I don't think you're doing anything wrong. It's gonna hurt and be overwhelming just keep talking to us and the people you trust. Eventually it'll be mostly good and you'll have a great relationship with your SO.