If he hangs around or gets her to hang around like she's doing right now.....then she graduates & gets a good paying job & he quits his job then she will be the sole person earning money. Even if he does put her on the loan......she will then be the bread winner of the family....she will be the one paying all the bills & supporting him.......then he files for divorce & claims that she is the only one with earning power & divorce being equitable in Calif.....she could be required to give money to him for support in the divorce.


She needs a good divorce lawyer to make sure she makes the right moves at the right time.


But....honestly.....why she isn't even confronting him about everything.....man, I would be fighting mad & he would get an ear full.....& I would make his life so miserable that he would be looking forward to a divorce....I definitely wouldn't sit back & take all the crap that she is taking from him silently. Rolling over & playing dead while he does everything & all she does is try to figure out why he's doing it.....personally I wouldn't give a crap about why he was doing anything....what he's doing is WRONG in a marriage & I would confront even if it does mean fighting constantly. I was getting my degree & my H did all kinds of crap that I jumped all over him for doing just like her H is doing to her....I wasn't going to just sit there & take it....it was either going to stop or he was going to know exactly what I felt about it & exactly WHY the divorce was going to hit him over the head.


Marriage is about partnership....if he's mad about the things she did that he didn't like & told her then she needs to get MAD & get all over him for the things that he's doing that she doesn't like.......marriages without fights are unhealthy & it's the person refusing to fight that's the unhealthy one & really is the one NOT communicating....just sits there & takes his criticism