You want to look up in the Bible....there isn't anything that he is doing that is Biblically OK in the way that he's being a H....he's failing so badly if they want to look at it Biblically.....the pastor's just not pushing the issue.......He's definitely NOT loving you the way Christ loves the church & he definitely wouldn't give his life for you......in reality.....he's not even being a H......wondering if he was the one that really wanted to get married or if he was pressured into it & would have been just as happy living together with you the rest of your lives? He definitely doesn't want to be a H while in the words you say that he is saying.....he's pushing the fact that he expects you to be the wife that does nothing but take care of him......that is NOT a Biblical marriage if you really want to get technical with him......oh, but you don't confront him about his actions like he confronts you.....you just keep quiet & hold it all in or excuse it away.