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Apr 11, 2015, 10:45 AM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,097
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I need to vent while I sit here.
I understand my sister-in-law is trying to cope with the loss of her father. I understand. I really do. BUT she is the kind of person who wants what she wants RIGHT NOW!
There is a SNAFU that she wants to fix before my father-in-law can be buried. Sorry, this is going to be complex.... The parent-in-laws had a three grave plot at the cemetery. Mother-in-law is buried in one. Brother-in-law is buried in one. My hubby's ashes are buried in the third one. The SNAFU is that hubby and his brother were supposed to be in the same grave. As it stands they have to move hubby's ashes so father-in-law can be buried.
I told my sister-in-law I'm fine with them moving the ashes. It seems there is some form I have to sign so the funeral home can have the ashes moved. I suggested they fax the form to my office and I will sign it Monday. Sister-in-law is not planning on having the funeral for a couple of weeks so waiting until Monday would not hold up funeral plans.
This morning sister-in-law called. She was totally confused about where I work and where I live. Have lived in the same place since 1990 and worked at the same place since 2003.  First she wanted me to drive to the funeral home - which is on the other side of the state! Then she said there might be a problem with me signing the forms at work on Monday because my signature needs to be notarized. I assured her there is a notary in our office. Then she wanted to know if I could meet the funeral home folks at another location tomorrow.
Jeeze louise! Let them fax me the stupid form at the office. I will sign it, have it notarized and return it to them the same danged day! But no, I'm supposed to rearrange my weekend to do things on her timetable.
I ended up e-mailing the funeral home folks myself and gave them permission to contact me directly so we can work this out.
All this nonsense if opening old wounds I thought had healed. Things involving her always had to be on her terms. If hubby's whole family was getting together it had to be at her convenience. If she wanted to get together early on a Saturday, even though hubby and I worked until 2 AM we got together early on Saturday. That sort of thing. At one point when my father-in-law was in the hospital I was told I could not visit him because it was "family only." OK, I'm not a blood relation, but I was married to their son for 23 years! 
Time to log off. I'm getting myself all worked up. Am going out to the barn to play with the horses for awhile.
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