Is your deadline before or after the surgery? I'm hoping that you are going to at least give it a chance and see if it helps. Of course, it will take time to heal after the surgery before you know if your pain is going to be reduced.

Your son needs you, Mary Alice. If it will be hard for him to have to deal with your husband's moods for 3-5 days while you are in the hospital, when he will be able to at least visit you, how much harder will it be for him to have to deal with all that plus your permanent absence and all the guilt that he will have (children are not rational and do feel guilt for things that are not their fault) for the rest of his life? You mean more than the world to that little boy.

-Wendy

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