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Originally Posted by Burned123
BudFox I can totally relate to you! My T inappropriately and unethically terminated me, and I believe I know the reason. After four years we were quite close and if she was honest, I believe that she was as attached to me as I was to her. I told her she was like my best friend. She didn't agree on a financial situation that I had made and I got mad and cancelled our next appointment. The following day she sent me a letter telling me that she could not continue to support me in decisions that I was making that were self destructive. Come on...we're talking about $140.00 loan payment for a car for my son. The part that hurts is she didn't offer me referrals, appropriate closure or any further contact. I would give up almost anything...including my pending disciplinary action for her to admit that she screwed up and the hurt she has caused me. I have abandonment issues and she seriously exasperated them. I have spent over 50 hours with a new T trying to fix the damage that she has caused. I hate it! I want validation that she screwed up from her...not from everyone else. I have a hard time realizing that I will never get that validation from her!
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Well I have to say my T did nothing as bad as that. That is terrible what you describe. So you filed a complaint?
Your post reminds me of something I have been reading and thinking about… that therapy is supposed to be a safe place where one can have a chance at a new way of relating to others, and this is based on the premise that the T has done sufficient inner work to make this feasible.
But when the T's own vulnerabilities and issues get triggered, as perhaps happened with you and definitely happened with me, then things can break down. And the one who really suffers is the client because they are exposed and vulnerable as a result of the inherent power imbalance. So once again, I ask whether the basic concept of therapy is the issue.
I guess we are on a tangent here given my original post...