i used to have a a lot of hate for myself.. it was the result of many things. what helped me to have some compassion for myself was to think of me as if i were thinking about someone else. it was the first time i ever felt any sympathy for myself. and the sympathy made me more understanding toward myself, so there was less internal conflict.

sometimes if you think of how you would feel for your child self it helps. think about how the child you were does not deserve to feel this way. and remember that child is still in you and you need to care for them. they need unconditional love, and if they dont have it you are the only one who can give it. they dont deserve to be hated they deserve happiness.
YOU deserve happiness.