I think that as much as we like to think we are bonding with our T's ... Mine brought a reality home recently amongst my depression. I suppose we wish our T's to empathize...but to what degree? Mine said... no matter what kind of life you are having, my life is just fine. That was an interesting reality. It has stayed in my thoughts for the good part of a week or so. That did kind of hurt but it is a reality...and a separateness.