well, i think the first thing to do is ask yourself more about why her statement hit you so hard...write it out. What was your immediate rxn? What were the thoughts afterwards that lead to s astronger rxn? WHen you think of it now what do you think and feel? Why does it threaten your feeling of safety?

I mean, on the surface it's just a statement right? But it's never about the surface. Dig into it. The painful place is always the direction to go.

i am sorry it hurts and i am sorry you have to struggle through this sort of issue. Other issues snuggled in positive transferenece are easier.

Please forgive my typing..i have a med that is causine word probs and affects my typing.

peace