Lighting up without so much as a "do you mind if I..?" That's incredibly rude, in my opinion.

Intentional or not, the fact that it made you uncomfortable is in my opinion useful information. The spidey-sense is sometimes wholly without basis, but more often than not there's something to it.

Those of us with depression learn about cognitive distortions, how depression deceives our minds into lying to us, etc. This info is invaluable to me, but it's sometimes unhelpful in that it causes me to doubt my own thoughts and intuitions and assume they're groundless when they are not. Surely this unbiased professional (or wise relative or whomever) must be right and I must be wrong, I'll think.

But the fact is, *everybody* is subject to cognitive distortions, self deception, and the like. The main difference between me and my relatives and other well-meaning people is that I'm constantly on the lookout for my distorted thinking, whereas they usually are unfamiliar with the concept (or if they are, tend to assume it doesn't happen to them). And why would they? If they aren't mental health professionals they'd never have any reason to question their thoughts and feelings.

This lack of awareness surely applies to a small but non-zero percentage of mental health professionals. Whether your therapist did the leg thing intentionally or not is immaterial. While it's possible your mind played a trick on you - his leg didn't really move closer, you just thought it did - I think it's unlikely. I think it's more likely it really did move, and you therefore have reason to be suspicious.

I'm not a mental health professional. Nor am I female so I don't know what it's like for a woman in that situation. That said, here's my suggestion: If this therapist is really good, you feel like he's helping, everything's fine except for this one incident - get a second opinion. Run this by another therapist, or your psychiatrist if you have on. If this therapist isn't all that great or you don't feel he's helping very much, just move on and be done with it.

I apologize for going on so long. I've tried hard not to be overly opinionated and offensive, but I sometimes miss the mark, and if anyone is offended the fault is almost certainly mine.