I like the seperateness because it means that I can share my pain without making her life awful. So, I want her to empathize in that she tries to understand and imagine in some small way what I am experiencing and feeling. However, I also want her to keep herself seperate from my hurts and fears. Otherwise, I can't work with her.
T has only a few times allowed my feelings to get under her skin and responded in an off way. At first, I was afraid to talk about that subject again. T still seems to struggle most with my distaste for psychiatric drugs. I find that she responds in a way that makes me suspect that she just can't quite conceive of why I am unnerved/scared of psychiatric drugs.