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Originally Posted by misskeena
Sorry...I didn't mean to be snappy, I just feel like such a loser. This is not a good situation for me but I mean, it never is so what's the difference? I am always getting too wound up, too attached, pushing away, anxious, overwhelmed. A basket case, in other words.
I just want to have a normal time where I go out for coffee with a guy and get to know him peacefully without all of this effed up mess in my head.
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Hey Miss K, mostly just wanting to send you a hug, reading through this thread I'm wondering if you want to vent rather than get advice?
For what it's worth (you can take what you want from this and leave the rest) if I were you I would take the pressure off myself by not looking at this as a 'date' but rather the next stage in a friendship. Could you casually invite him along to something socially where there are a few others in your circle already going? If he says no then no big deal you're still going to go and have a good time, rather than it being all or nothing. If he says yes then take it from there.
From what you write of him it sounds like you have the potential to be good friends.