I identify as asexual and I can tell you that asexuality itself is a pretty broad term which houses different classifications beneath it. Some people feel no sexual attraction/desire but still crave romance and intimacy. Some crave neither. Some have urges but they aren't directed at other people. The list goes on and on... but I'll just leave this here if you haven't seen it. The site and forums are very active there and you may be able to get some of your questions answered, or at least, find people you can relate to.

The Asexual Visibility and Education Network | asexuality.org

Hopefully this link is okay to post here. I'm not affiliated with the site, just think it might help clear up some of these questions as I know it did for me.