Detour,

I feel like maybe I shouldn't say this, but I've read your posts, and if I were going through what you are I would be confused too. I'm not there, so I don't really know what is going on, but based on what you write, I can't help but have two thoughts.

I think I can understand where you are coming from with your friend. You like the guy and want a friend, but things aren't going so smoothly. That's ok. I get lonely a lot. I also have a hard time connecting with people. The big thing is that people need to be free to not to be your friend. You have to give them the option of rejecting you if you want them to accept you. They need to be free to be your friend only as much as they want. By giving them this room, you are showing them you respect them, and make them feel comfortable.

I don't know what your teacher and counselor are trying to do, so maybe you should follow their lead. Remember to respect them. Take their advice seriously. However, I just have to say the way they are trying to control how often and when you see your friend is just weird. It's ok to talk about boundaries, and for them to make suggestions. Going beyond that just seems like too much. Nobody can be a friend on someone else's schedule. Deciding how often and when you see someone is part of friendship. You guys have to work that out on your own. Sometimes you get hurt, but that's the only way it can happen. Friendship requires freedom.

Your teachers can't teach you to have a healthy friendship in an artificial way.