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I think that as much as we like to think we are bonding with our T's ... Mine brought a reality home recently amongst my depression. I suppose we wish our T's to empathize...but to what degree? Mine said... no matter what kind of life you are having, my life is just fine.... That did kind of hurt but it is a reality...and a separateness.

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That's interesting, SG, because mine has said on several occasions to me how great he is doing right now and how great his life is, and I find that a positive thing, very reassuring. And that is why he tells it to me--it's therapeutic for me. I know (and Hopefull also mentioned something similar) that I was reluctant to share some c**ppy childhood memories with T because I was worried about inflicting them on him, and he reassured me how strong he was and that he was in such a good space in his life right now and had lots of experience receiving bad memories from clients, so he could take it. I was never hurt by his revelations--they only helped me. I would not want him to be experiencing what I am right now in my life. I don't mind being separate from my T. I like that we are individuals and differentiated from each other. But I like our bond too.