NullNull, I have read Sideblinded's post as well and I agree that you could be asexual - or potentially bisexual. If you feel there is the potential for a great relationship with your female coworker, don't let your past get in the way. The past is important, but you can focus on the present. Sexual desire changes over time, and it could be that you develop (or don't) sexual desire for her as time progresses. Be kind to yourself. A label for your sexual orientation is not as important (in my opinion) as your happiness in day to day life.