No, I wasn't thinking about how the post was all about you. I was thinking about me -- all about me! :-) -- how I and my mate of 15 years had a "master plan" that was about me getting academic tenure, and him quitting his job, and when I didn't get tenure, and got ill so it looked like I might never have an income as good as I've had -- he split. Completely blindsided me. My mother cried, because she loved him so much, so I guess others were blindsided, too. So my thought about your story was -- watch it.

Money is rarely just about money -- it can be about power over the other person, identity, self-esteem, etc.

Yours was a long post, which makes me feel that perhaps you've been saving up a lot of stuff that all came pouring out. I honestly don't know if it is "all about you" but in the end, for most of us, our life is all about us.

I so I hope you can find a good listener and good counselor to help you sort through all this. It's important not to stuff it.