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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
I can see a whole load of potential problems with buying a dog from your T.
From her perspective it is potentially dodgy ethically, but also it could end badly for you. This puppy would always be emotionally linked to your T. What if you have a huge rupture? Will you want to take care of the puppy if you are angry with T? What about if you leave therapy, will having this dog make it harder for you to move on? What if the puppy gets sick or has a hereditary illness? Do you want to end up in a dispute with your T if you are suddenly lumped with heavy vets bills?
It just sounds like a potential minefield that could disrupt therapy for you. If you are currently in an apartment, why don't you wait till its more practically viable then look for a puppy from an independent breeder without the emotional baggage.
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I doubt that I would somehow love that dog less if things ended badly with my therapist. I guess in a way I want something to retain from her?
And a puppy that she took care of in its first weeks seemed at like the perfect idea: I'd love him, he would cheer me up, love me and we would forever have that bond, my therapist and I.
But you're right, I hadn't thought about all the implications.
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Originally Posted by Soccer mom
If you're asking us, then deep down you probably know it's not the greatest idea. But I completely understand why you would want to.
You could go down the road of telling her you're thinking about getting a dog and discuss breeds. You could show your mutual interest this way and see where the conversation goes. But, be prepared that it doesn't go the direction you would like.
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Thanks. Yeah, I know it's a bad idea. But for a minute or so, it seemed like the perfect plan.
I will definitely talk to her about breeding as she seems very passionate about it. I'm just worried about the googling thing and the judgement.
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Originally Posted by Seeking_Peace
Its not weird b/c I (most people on this forum) understand you desire to have this connection with your T through the dog. However, the fact that you're asking us this question means there is a part of you that already knows that this is a BAD idea.
If you love dogs and want to get one, find another source. My personal recommendation is to adopt one from the shelter or if you want a pure breed, find another breeder. But forging a dual relationship with your T in this manner is a BAD idea. And as others have said, it would be unethical for your T to say "yes" to this.
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If it hadn't been for that one puppy left behind, the idea wouldn't have come to me. I was researching dogs already and then kept seeing pictures of her puppies and thought: "hang on, this is perfect, I'll just buy hers".
It is indeed a bad idea. And my T would probably say no to this, or at the most would be very embarassed.