So did she go easier on you today?

For marriage counseling, I find that if I'm feeling bad about something or think H might be annoyed at me, I'm likely to wear more feminine, "softer" clothing, like a floral blouse or something like that--definitely not red or some other bold color. Like I think if I'm dressed more innocently, then the session would go differently than if I was wearing something more assertive looking.

With T, if I'm feeling especially rough and want to talk about it, I often won't put on as much makeup, so my appearance will better reflect how I'm feeling. If I'm feeling bad (and look it) but don't necessarily want to talk about it, I'll use more makeup to make my eyes look brighter and more awake.