It gets better the more you learn about it and the more you work with a good therapist and learn to recognize difficult situations for you before they get too far out of control. I'm very proud so having to "back down" and recognize I've been wrong, or hurtful, or a bad situation has been mostly my fault, has never gone over well with me :-) but I have learned that doing things so others understand and are less unhappy with me has its own rewards and compensations.