Thread: lack of help
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Old Jun 18, 2007, 10:09 AM
amco amco is offline
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My mother has something called schizoaffective disorder. She's currently taking Risperodone. The problem is she's just being left to stagnate in her house. Her quality of life is almost non existent. She lives on benefits which would be OK if she wasn't in £4000 of debt from years ago. She struggles everyday with everything and she still has dramatic mood swings and rages. She is terrified to go out which means I have to buy her shopping and do other things, like pay her bills. I have on many occassions become totally frustrated by this and everytime she has a mood swing I can't help but take it personally. She behaves like a spoilt child. Sorry, but she really does. If I will not get her shopping then she has to go and get it herself and if this happens she becomes abusive to whoever she meets on her travels. She's clearly still not well and the last time she was sectioned was just five months ago. She's been sectioned three times in the past two years, but the last time they let her home after less than a week 'cause they said she was OK. She has a community psychiatric nurse who occasionally visits when she decides to let him in. He does nothing. He is useless. He said he would reorder her medication from the chemist, but the past three times he has forgotton. This has meant she has had a break in her medication and become ill again. He denies that he forgot and says the fault lies with the chemist. I am frustrated with them all. My mother keeps getting appointments sent out to see the local psychiatrist, but she wont go and see him and consequently there is not a lot they can do to help her. It's a simple case of she has to literally come to the attention of the police before they take any notice. When they do take notice, they just section her and take her to a hospital two hundred miles away where a psychiatrist [never the same one, always someone who doesn't know her] talks to her briefly and then decides to either increase or change her medication and then eventually send her home. BUT NOTHING CHANGES. The situation goes around and around in circles. I am so angry at the lack of support from her family. They don't believe she is ill. They think she can control her behaviour and she does this for attention. They believe that I am putting up with abuse and basically I should walk away and never look back. My mother has been in the mental health sytem for thirty years. She has been abused by the mental health system. She has been a testing pig for all their medications. I have a great deal of anger towards the mental health system. They and my family advise me to walk away from my mother. I get no support. I just get told that she is abusive even though she has a diagnosis. I can't understand this. I can't understand why there is no one who can help her and I honestly believe she is going to die soon if she keeps living the way that she is living, which would be considered cruel for a dog. I am angry at my aunts [her sisters]. I am angry at my brother. They have all just walked away. They blame her for being the way she is. In their opinion I am not a caring daughter, just a stupid woman who is missing out on life because I let my mother manipulate me into thinking she needs me because she is ill!! I'm totally confused and this stuff is playing havoc with my mind. It's not helathy. It makes me angry at the whole world.