I'm not sure what point you are driving at Hankster but I'm taking offence at you basically calling me resistant. It seems like a passive aggressive dig.

I understand therapy sometimes needs to deconstruct aspects of the self so we can build a new, healthier one. What it does not need to do is bulldoze and retraumatize and add a fresh layer of confusion and chaos.

If I have a bad tooth, I go to a dentist and hopefully they remove the tooth in a humane way, adhering to protocals and procedure and checking with me whether the pain relief is adequate. It will still hurt and be scary but will be ok. If I get a nutter dentist (this happened my brother and sister, way back when) who yanks out the tooth without pain relief, without telling you the steps he's going to follow, well f#ck me - the end result will still technically be the same, ie the bad tooth is gone - but one dentist was humane and appropriate, the other simply was not.

There's more than one way to skin a cat, some of them acceptable, others not.

And I'm starting to take a very dim view of therapists who foist their bullsh#t on people who come to them already in a vulnerable state.