Thanks for your advice everyone.

I'm gonna explain a few more things even though it seems pretty cut and dried from where ya'll are standing.

Firstly...i'm usually a very good judge of character, which is part of the reason this situation is difficult. This girl, as far as i can tell, has a really good heart. When she was having trouble breaking up with the other guy and i met with her, she got physically sick from stressing out. You can tell when someone is faking sick and when they are really not feeling well, and trust me, she was feeling like hell.

Second, i think "single" is a mistaken way that she described how she wanted to the situation to be. Now, how she wantED it to be, and how she may want it to be NOW may be two completely different things, but she says she is one to get quite involved/attached when she actually gets into a relationship, and she just wasn't ready to jump from boyfriend to boyfriend without having some time to herself to know that she can cope without someone to lean on. That seemed reasonable to me at the time, especially since she was trying to break up with a guy that she had been going with for a year+ while I had only really been seeing her for about a month. In addition, she said the purpose of said time alone was not to be running around with other guys, but to honestly have time to herself. Who knows if she is telling the truth but we'll find out eventually.

In hindsight, i should not have gotten myself so involved in this particular relationship, and should have waited for next school year to pursue her, as these difficulties really could have been avoided. But you can't cry over spilt milk...even though I do...

I'm really not sure if she's seeing the other guy anymore. They still talk and using some snooping (maybe stalkerish but who really cares) tactics, it seems as though they are at the very least still friendly. The only other thing that concerns me is that she always says she'll call later in a day etc and then not, saying she is really busy/has swimming practice in the morning....which she probably does, but still it's obviously concerning.

I think what i'll do is when i go down there in a few days is be really honest and ask her what is up/what's changed, if anything. I'll try hard not to get angry, though that can be a problem for me as I'm pretty emotional and tend to get pretty pissed sometimes, but I never really act on my anger which i'm sure doesn't help my mental/emotional state, but it's better than freaking out whenever I am pissed. I'll try to have an honest talk with her and not allow her to be vague about what she's saying. If she has a good heart she'll be honest and tell me what she thinks, if I've been reading her wrong the whole time she will likely get somewhat angry that I'm pressing her on the issues, in which case I don't need to be around her -- case closed.

It's a damn lonely world though but thanks for your help everybody and i'll try to keep you posted on what happens, because even though it really isn't your problem, you all put in your two cents to help me get over my problem, and in doing so helped shoulder the burden, so i figure its only right that i'd let you know what happens.

thanks
slightlylessconfusedGUY